Ok, maybe that is a bit dramatic.
Have you ever met someone and just clicked? It doesn't happen very often for me. As you can read in a previous post of mine, most of my friends are very old time friends. The kind that literally can remind me who I loved in 2nd grade, what I wore in my 6th grade school picture and can tell me where and when I lost my virginity. I love those friends. Because of those relationships though, I think I have trouble seeing potential for a lasting friendship with someone that I just met. I am very social. I meet people easily and can talk to just about anyone in any situation, but generally it is all surface stuff...or stuff about them and not really anything about me.
So it really took me by surprise when I met Heather We knew each other only on paper. She is part of an online community that I joined after I miscarried in 1999 and she had a son that passed away shortly after birth in 2000. I am not really sure when I started really paying extra attention to her posts...I think it was only in the last couple years. She is really funny. She writes very well and I love her parenting style. She is also from Ireland, so I love to hear about her times there and see pictures of her homeland.
Then one night, a few of us from Arizona decided to meet another friend from our board that was in town. We all met out at dinner...and it...........just...........clicked. She is not just funny -- but the kind of funny that is absolutely side achingly hilarious. She is sassy and sarcastic. It also helps that she likes to drink as much as I do. LOL There is something very special about someone who can jump into any situation and get along just fine. She has since met all of my friends and they all love her. She has joined our bunco group and comes to our girls weekends. She'll watch my kids in a pinch, and let me cry on her shoulder when I'm at my wits end. She's the kind of friend that you trust instantly (and she knows things that some of my nearest and dearest don't) and she gives advice that just makes sense.
We were destined to meet. We were meant to be friends. There are too many coincidences and parallels in our lives to think that our meeting was anything but cosmic.
And now....She's moving. Her husband is going to be taking a job in Hawaii....My little Irish Leprechan Friend is going to be leaving. Ugh. It makes me sad, NOT because I think we will lose our friendship, but it makes me sad that I took our proximity for granted -- maybe took her for granted.
I just can't wrap my arms around the idea of it.
2 comments:
I can't say how long I've sat here and looked at this for, because time has just moved away from me.
I can't tell you how much you mean to me, because I never expected you'd be this important in my life.
I can't describe how much I care about you, because there aren't enough words.
But I can tell you that I love you.
I'm sorry your dear friend is moving so far away. How hard it must be for both of you. You can still keep in touch, thanks to modern technology, but not having her there will be extremely difficult. Once again, I’m sorry.
Yours is the second blog posting I've read today about friendship. My mom was my best friend for decades and she passed away 5 years ago. To be honest, I haven't had the strength to become good friends with anyone since then. Instead, I throw myself into work, my family and pets. Looking back, I’ve purposely avoided getting close to people. Maybe it's time to open myself up to friendship again. Thanks for making me think.
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